I too have had that problem of reading posts Nan but not wanting to say anything cause, after all what did I have to say? and as you say you dont 'feel part of the club' ..arent we an insecure lot

Sometimes sharing problems etc can help lose or just stay the same..a little encouragement is what we most need at times..something we may not get from close family members

I know when I had a spell of 'doing nothing' last year due to a day or two in hospital KM was wonderful, she went to the trouble to send me some great books to read and a few jigsaws to try my hand at (I failed miserably at the puzzles but loved the books)...so encouragement and kindness from strangers can mean a lot at times.
So agree its a state of mind KM, I think you get to that point when you realise noone can lose your weight for you and if you want to do it..then you just have to...sometimes you have to be really bloody minded about it!